THE ETIQUETTE OF SOCIAL DANCE (part 2)
Who to invite
If each person will dance with only one or two partners (partners), the social orientation of the dance will be at risk. For this reason, social dance etiquette encourages everyone to dance with different partners. This should guarantee a variety of dance couples on the dance floor and give everyone the opportunity to dance. Also, dance etiquette does not recommend dancing with the same more than two dances in a row.
One of the ways to break this rule is when someone dances most of the party with someone they come with. In this case, the rules of etiquette are almost the same as traditional dinner parties: guests never sit at the table next to his wife. It is assumed that if the couple were primarily interested in talking to each other, they might have stayed at home together. In addition, the principle of social dance demonstrates the desire to dance socially. It means dancing with different partners, not with the same or some chosen ones. I’ve heard a version of this rule that reserves the first and last dance of the evening for who came to the party, and the rest of the dances are danced with others.
People usually tend to dance with other dancers of the same level as themselves, but You should try to dance with partners of different levels. Etiquette does not approve of the behavior of those who dance only with the best dancers at the party. Although this is not a gross violation, but still ill-mannered. The best dancers are especially encouraged to periodically invite newcomers themselves. This helps the social dynamics of the dance and also raises the overall level of the dancers.
Unfortunately, there are some dancers who consider themselves too good to dance with beginners. It often turns out that these dancers are not as good as they think. They need good partners because only good partners can compensate for their mistakes, bad technique or other discrepancies. Really good dancers often set themselves the task of dancing with lower level dancers and enjoy it. Good dancers make their partners look good (Read the article “What do you need to do to become a good dancer?”).
Refusal to dance
Being rejected is always unpleasant. For beginners and shy people it is even more difficult and can be a reason not to invite anyone else. The etiquette of dance required to avoid rejection of the invitation to dance under most circumstances. For example, you should not refuse an invitation to dance with someone else. According to etiquette, there are only three elegant ways to refuse an invitation to dance:
You don’t know how to dance this dance,
You need to rest,
You promised someone else a dance.
Do not abuse these methods. A good tone when refusing would be to offer another dance instead: “No, Thank you, I have to rest. Can we dance a little later?”Also, giving up the dance means you’ll be sitting the whole song. It would be a gross breach of etiquette if You refused to go dancing with someone else. Even if after You refused, You were invited by Your favorite partner. The choice is to dance with the one who invited at the beginning or to sit through the whole dance.
Does the etiquette of dance allow to refuse to dance outside of the above mentioned cases? The answer is Yes. If someone invites You too often, makes inappropriate dance moves, behaves unsafe on the dance floor (such as encounters with other couples) or does any other questionable actions, You have the right to politely but firmly refuse to dance with that person. Perhaps the easiest way is to say “No, thank You” without further explanation or argument. Maybe it will tell some dancers how to behave correctly.
The first thing to do when you get rejected is to accept an apology at face value. Usually social dance parties last for 3-4 hours, and there are not so many dancers who are willing to dance without a break all the time. Everyone needs to rest from time to time, which means he may have to say no to someone every time he needs to take a break. The Council of conservative dancers and especially newbies: never be discouraged if you got rejected once or even twice.
However, since social dancers are usually polite and correct, repeated rejection can be a signal that something you are doing is wrong. In this case, it is worth analyzing your dance and social interaction to find out what could be the matter.