THE ETIQUETTE OF SOCIAL DANCE (part 4)
Did your partner enjoy the dance?
Dance partners of different levels
It often happens when dancing partners of different levels. It is important that a more experienced partner adjust to the level of a less experienced partner. This is mainly a recommendation for those who lead (Read the article “How to learn to lead a partner in dance?”): dancing with a new partner, start with simple movements, and gradually move on to more complex. You will determine the level of comfort and remember it well future when you dance together again.
A lot of women’s style, additional rotation, etc. can bring discontent and even scare off a less experienced partner. Although I must say that posturing among partners is not common, more violations of this rule allow partners who lead inexperienced partners to complex shapes.
Be sensitive to your partner’s preferences
Social dancers strive to make the dance comfortable for their partners and help them enjoy the dance. It is necessary to listen to what the partner likes and what is not. This can take many forms. For example, some dancers don’t like rotations (or lots of rotations in a row) while others enjoy them. Some like support, others don’t. Be sensitive to the preferences of Your partners. What they like and what not, is not difficult to understand. You can also ask about it.
Be friendly, smile and look into the eyes of your partner. Try to be open and positive on the dance floor, even if it’s not Your style. Many of us have a complex and hectic life that forces us to be torn between study, work, family and other responsibilities. A hard and tiring day is not an acceptable excuse for depressing or similar unpleasant behavior on the dance floor. In social dances we dance not only with our beloved partners. This is not a reason for cold treatment of the partner. When someone invites or accepts an invitation to dance, it’s important to be friendly, even if you don’t feel excited about it.
The social dancer is also advised to be careful with his ego. Healthy self-esteem is encouraged in all social interactions, especially if a certain amount of modesty is added to it. It is useful to remember that revaluation of the skill or staginess of dance is quite widespread.
Training on the dance floor
There are two aspects to this point of etiquette:
Training when You are not asked
This, unfortunately, is one of the most common violations of dance etiquette. It often happens when a dancer stops in the middle of a dance to correct their partner or show how to do the dance movement. Oddly enough, this mistake is often made by people who do not dance for a long time! Experienced dancers dance at the level of their partners. For them, the dance floor is not the place to teach or correct Your partner. It is better to concentrate on the movements that both partners can perform and enjoy the dance. Training when You are not asked for it can be offensive and spoil the whole impression of the dance.
Requests to teach on the dance floor
This is not a gross breach of etiquette. For many it is even flattering when they are asked to show how this or that movement is done. However, you should be careful with this. Consider the following scenario: a polite dancer hears his favorite song and invites the first stranger to dance. He really wants to dance this song, and she says, “I can’t dance this dance. Can you please teach me a lesson?»
What you can learn from scratch in 3-4 minutes is a moot point, but it is not relevant. This song, the one he really wants to dance to. For this or any other reason, he might not want to teach anyone at the moment, but she left him no polite way out of the situation.
Of course, it’s not always that bad. Dancers can be quite a good idea to learn from each other. Here you should follow a few simple rules to avoid unpleasant situations:
Don’t say “Teach me” when someone asks You to dance. If they are too polite, they will feel trapped after spending the next few minutes with You, and then the rest of the party will avoid you. If they don’t suffer from excessive politeness, they won’t teach You, and the rest of the party will avoid You too.
The correct approach is the following: when You are invited to dance, you can say, “I would like to, but I do not know how to dance this dance.” This shows that help would be appreciated, but it is done unobtrusively.
The inviter in this situation can take the partner to the dance floor to try to dance a few basic steps or, if he or she is not inclined to do so, will offer to dance another dance later.
It is better to ask for help from friends or at least someone with whom You have danced at least a few dances, and not someone you met by accident.
If You want to ask something, You can talk to someone who is resting. This way he won’t miss the dance helping You.
Etiquette is to ensure that everyone will have a good time at social dance parties, so pay special attention to it.
Your clothing and accessories should be comfortable, safe, and also reflect the culture and level of formality of the dance event. Don’t forget your dance shoes.
Invite different dancers to dance. Don’t invite the same thing often.
Today’s beginners will be good dancers tomorrow, so be kind to them and dance with them.
Do not refuse to dance if you do not have a good reason. If you refuse, don’t dance this song with someone else.
Be attentive to other dancing couples. Control the distance to other pairs to avoid colliding with them. Don’t make complicated supports on a crowded dance floor.
Linear dancers dance along parallel paths to less interfere with each other.
Avoid figures that your partner cannot make: adjust to the level of Your partner.
Never blame your partner for mistakes.
Don’t teach someone on the dance floor who doesn’t ask for it.
Be polite, smile, look into each other’s eyes, enjoy the dance.