The atmosphere of social pair dancing
For a long time I could not understand the atmosphere of social pair dances. In fact, it’s very difficult to understand from the outside. Not only can they do things in public that some people are shy of in private, but they are also closed to the outside world. They communicate very gently and easily with each other and completely distantly – with those who are “not logged in”. While I was studying, but I was still “not logged in” – I must say, all this baffled me. Firstly, it seemed that through this veil of alienation to them, sparkling and beautiful, one simply could not break through. And secondly – how much you can cuddle in the end, how do they even do it, you know, I’m a decent girl, but then my partner will not even ask for a name – but to cuddle.
Well, finally, being on the other side of the mirror, I realized the uniqueness of this atmosphere – the uniqueness obvious to every dancer. They can pass all this long, long social prelude, starting with “what’s your name,” until the moment when it becomes possible to touch the essence of a person, penetrate them, let them penetrate themselves, exist for some time together, in each other – and see what he is, what new you are next to him. And for this they do not rake anything that happens in ordinary life, if only two have reached this point. They don’t leave their toothbrushes in someone else’s apartments, they don’t think what color the curtains in the nursery will be and how to wean a person, say, hang socks on a chandelier, otherwise it’s an impossible habit, if we live together I will finally strangle him in ten years from now the very toe …
But it’s enough for the dancers to come up and lend a hand, and then smile and say “thank you” to live these crazy moments.
In life there are not many things с, in adrenaline and in attractiveness with this process – the process of knowing another person. But there are also not so many complicated, tedious and unpredictable things that require such an investment of their own energy.
And yes, the dancers close their world, perhaps even unconsciously. Because people “from outside” interpret their behavior incorrectly, according to the social model, in which the stage of cognition of a person begins after long voyages and involves a continuation, otherwise you are either crazy or an immoral asshole. Therefore, in order to gain this access to “express cognition” one needs to spend some time learning how to dance. But this is a very small fee for such a profitable cheat code))
It’s a pity that now dances are not included in the general education program, this wouldс people’s lives)