ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE ETIQUETTE OF SOCIAL DANCE (part 1)
People come to social dance parties for leisure to enjoy the dance. For dancing man nothing compares with the elegant and harmonious sensations of dancing to beautiful music with a wonderful partner (partner).
But anyone who comes to social dances notices that not everyone is having a good time. While some sit out many dances, others are constantly in demand. These lucky dancers seem to not only have a great time, they also convey their joy and energy to others. In these people there is something that goes against the pretty appearance and the ability to dance. How do they do that? What are the personal qualities, habits and skills that lead to success on the social dance floor? This article explores the answers to these questions.
Etiquette and out of etiquette
Success in social activities requires awareness of accepted norms of behavior. The importance of dance etiquette for a social dance dancer can hardly be overstated. Etiquette is important everywhere, but especially in the dance, where there should be no place for negative emotions.
Local communities of social dances tend to be not very numerous, giving a good opportunity for self-regulation of dance etiquette. Inattentive people can temporarily enjoy at the expense of other dancers. But they quickly acquire a reputation, mostly without their knowledge, and become outcasts. A good reputation as an attentive and pleasant partner is the best asset of a social dancer.
In the future, we will touch on some other aspects that go beyond the rules of etiquette. More information about dance etiquette can be found in the previous article “social dance Etiquette”. Here are the basic principles:
Never blame your partner for anything that might happen on the dance floor if You want him/her to dance with You again.
Invitation to dance should be taken almost under any circumstances. If You refuse to dance, do not dance this dance with anyone else.
Never teach those who do not ask for it! A partner may feel insulted. This is not the best way to encourage him/her or others to dance with You.
Do not invite the same partner too often. Dancers are polite and rarely refuse to dance, but this is no reason to abuse their kindness. Dance with everyone and let others dance.
On the dance floor be attentive to other couples. Be careful with no one to face and don’t do challenging supports on crowded dance floors.
What we have discussed so far is usually considered the area of dance etiquette. Anyone who grossly and regularly breaks the rules of etiquette will eventually start to be avoided in the local dance community. Thus, the first step to success among dancers is to follow the rules of dance etiquette. Once we’ve mastered the etiquette, it’s time to move beyond it and explore what else we can do to become popular in dancing circles. The rest of this article is devoted to this topic.
Make your partner happy
The only, the biggest secret of success in social dancing is to make Your partners happy on the dance floor. Once You succeed in this task, Your popularity will soar, and You will never have a shortage of partners (partners) who are eager to dance with You.
The realization of this fact is an important first step. Then you need to acquire the appropriate skills and follow in the chosen direction. There are many ways you can make your partner happy. Here are some steps to this:
There is no uncomfortable conduct: twisting your partner’s hands to lead her to turn, pushing or excessive tension to put her in some position or any other hard conduct will not be appreciated by Your partner (Read the article “How to learn to lead a partner in the dance?”). If she doesn’t do what You want, then you’re probably a bad driver. If You don’t know the figure well enough, don’t do it on the dance floor. Hold it for training until you work out, and then apply on the dance floor. If the conduct is good, and the partner is still not conducted, the partner is guilty again, as he tries to make a figure that is too complex for his partner.
No attempt to lead Your partner: When You invite or accept an invitation to follow someone in a dance, You implicitly agree to allow them to lead (Read the article “How to learn to follow a partner in a dance?”). At the same time, this does not mean that You have to be a great partner or even a good one, it means that You have to follow the partner’s movements and not try to seize the initiative in the lead. This is disrespect to your partner and it is unlikely he will like it when you take away their leadership.
Protect your partner: There are two aspects to this rule for partners. First, You have to keep a side eye on the neighboring pairs, so that no one collide and no one hit. Second: if you see the danger of a collision, pull your partner on yourself and turn around, so that You absorb the blow. The partner can also protect her partner, watching what happens behind his back. If you see the danger of a collision, a light pressure on his shoulder or arm will be enough to warn him of the danger of a collision.
Bring joy to your partner: When we dance, it is important that not only we have a good time, but also our partner. This means, among other things, that you need to make the dance for him/her comfortable by dancing at a level that is enjoyable for both and maintain a good sense of humor if something goes wrong. If You’re a perfectionist in your dance studies, leave that at parties. Honestly admit the mistakes if they are Yours, but do not dwell on them, keep dancing. Playfulness and carelessness in dance are also of great importance. Look at your partner and smile (except for the dances, which are not attractive to this). Concentrate not on your feelings, but on the feelings of Your partner.
Make your partner feel valuable: the most popular dancers are not necessarily the most skilled, but rather those who make it clear to each partner how valuable and enjoyable his company is. Most people wouldn’t dance with someone whose behavior is annoying, no matter how chic a partner he is.
Irritation factor: there are many things that can be acceptable in everyday situations and yet can be very annoying when done in close proximity in dance. In particular, do not hum to the beat of the music, do not count steps and do not chew gum when dancing.
It is worth repeating once again the cardinal rule of social dance: You are happy when Your partner is happy.